Ridiculously sexist practices in India

An Indian girl with a bindi on her fore-head and a veil on her head
An Indian girl with a bindi on her fore-head and a veil on her head
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While most of India is progressing towards gender equality and accepting all genders, there are some parts of India where discrimination against the female sex is still prevalent. It’s absurd to see that people worship female goddesses but disrespect the same gender.

Many say that women in India are not independent. I say most men aren’t because they can’t even make tea if their wives are not around.

The absence of a woman scares them.

All men are not the same, I am not a pseudo-feminist.

Some men


You may judge me after reading this but that is ok. I made mistakes and don’t feel shy to accept them.

This post is an entry in Modern Parent’s “Am I Doing This Right?” writing contest.

Yes, I made mistakes in my parenting, will make them in the future but will find them and deal with them.

When the tv rattled with news of the pandemic and when the lockdown was announced nationwide, Probably I might be among the few who were happy with the news.

I am an introvert. Home quarantine is not new to me. It has been my lifestyle. Now that it is official, I don’t have to find excuses to avoid some party.

I made a list…

My personal opinion on zomato’s period leave

three white menstrual cups of three different sizes on a purple surface
three white menstrual cups of three different sizes on a purple surface
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Last year, in August, Zomato, an Indian food delivery company announced that it is introducing paid period leave to its female and transgender employees. The company said that they can avail up to 10-period leaves per year.

After I read this article, I felt delighted that this company is trying its best to kick the shame and stigma around periods. I perceived this as a very progressive move.

But here is what happened. A famous senior journalist Barkha-Dutt tweeted this.

The journey to motherhood was painful and traumatic but full of valuable lessons.

A person holding baby’s index finger
A person holding baby’s index finger
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I experienced 2 miscarriages before giving birth to my boy. He is now 3 years old, will be 4 by June.

The miscarriages I suffered caused huge heartbreak for me and my husband as we never anticipated them.

We never expected this kind of crisis because we both had ourselves screened for everything before we planned our pregnancy. I wanted to make sure to get diagnosed and treated for any issues that would interfere with a healthy pregnancy.

Everything was perfectly fine, all reports were absolutely normal. My husband and I had no health issues that needed to be addressed.

Sharing the approaches I followed to introduce books to my child.

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I was in a hospital with my son for a check-up. Opposite to me, a lady and her daughter (who is almost of the same age as my son) were also waiting their turn. The hospital has a tiny play area for children. My son and her daughter started playing. After a while, both of them got disinterested. She rushed to her mom, took her by hand to the play area which has a tiny bookshelf full of children’s books. The daughter chose a book and her mom started reading it to her whereas I had to give my phone…

This is how I keep my kid busy during holidays.

I know…..I know….It is not new.

When the world was under lockdown, every parent was forced to put on many hats….Friend, Teacher, Referee(if you have multiple children), and maybe a magician too. So, you might have invented so many ways to engage your kids to maintain serenity at home.

The pandemic took certain things away but taught us many other things. Here are my ways of keeping my son busy when he is at home.

Floor jigsaw puzzles:

pictures of puzzles (1 to 100 Puzzle game) and peppa pig puzzle
pictures of puzzles (1 to 100 Puzzle game) and peppa pig puzzle
Photo by the author

For my kid, I could not find the best way to keep him occupied for longer periods other than these puzzles. I must tell you…

They crush your self-confidence

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Every human being has flaws. Nobody is perfect. I am not either. We all do have some alignment towards toxicity in character.

What defines us as compassionate human beings despite our flaws?

  • The conscious effort to be sensitive towards fellow human beings by respecting their emotions.
  • Overcoming negative attributes like anger and jealousy.
  • Apologize when wrong.
  • Thank others when we receive help.
  • Listen to others without judging.

But at the same time, I have had in my life some other sets of…

Untangling my thoughts through writing.

White ceramic mug on table with words “Begin” written on the mug
White ceramic mug on table with words “Begin” written on the mug
Danielle MacInnes, Unsplash

A bit about my past and present

I am Archana, a 30year old stay-at-home mom and a postgraduate in organic chemistry. Got married right after my PG. Have not worked anywhere ever since. I volunteered to stay at home. No one forced me. I never regret my decision.

I have seen many ups and downs in life just like everyone. I am not special.

I have a beautiful 3year old boy who will turn 4 by June. He is the best thing that ever happened to me.

I am not a native English speaker. My language level is just on the level of upper intermediate (I gave…


Chemist, teacher, reader and a full-time mom.

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